I often find my mother telling me how strict her parents used to be with her as a kid and how unimaginable it was for her to probably just sit and talk to them or crack a joke with them. However such boundaries and restrictions seem alien to us. Of course in some households, there might still be a distance between the child and the parent but majorly in today’s generation, children feel quite at ease with their parents and the parents have put in efforts to make it that way.
I suppose this is just the upshot of the famous phenomenon known as ‘alternate generation’ wherein certain trends that were followed severely by one generation are completely reversed by the forthcoming one. Possibly, this has just got something to do with the human nature of not finding satisfaction with anything. Humans don’t feel happy with the way things are going, it’s a complex psychology but it is also a very true fact. Thus, we constantly feel the need to bring about a change and I’m sure by the time it’s my generation’s time to become parents, they’ll have a completely different take on how one should behave with their children, perhaps there’ll be no children or maybe we’ll just go back to the good old ritual of the parent being an authority, not a friend and the child merely being a subject of their concern.
Now, coming to the plus side of the presently existent relationship between a child and its parent. The child finds it very easy to confide in the parent, there are no qualms when it comes to sharing details about their life with their parent. Therefore, this helps strengthen the bond between the parent and child and solutions to major problems in a child’s life may be sought. The child wouldn’t be lost or dumbfounded and will be able to approach their parents to derive their inputs on grave problems in life. Adding on, the purity of this
relationship is everlasting, thus a child will sense this freedom in communication with their parent even in the later stages of life, hence while tackling some of life’s actual problems, they’ll have somebody to talk to when
all other doors seem shut. This would be possible only if that particular positive relationship is being built throughout the life of a child with his parent. This is good for the mental well-being of the family and after all, who’s a better guide than the person who knows the other person from his first day on planet earth.
However, like everything else in life, this dynamic too has a downside. While children may find immense comfort and access to a parent’s thoughts, there is a very thin line between being a friendly parent and an actual
friend. Children tend to take their parents for a ride, thinking that it’s absolutely normal and just the flow of the relationship. However, this leads to violation of the boundaries that need to be maintained between a parent and a child and can result in the relationship becoming fragile as a result of the tremendous fights
arising from a difference in opinion. A child may start talking down to his parents and ultimately stop listening to them.
Thus, in conclusion, I’d like to say that the relationship of a child and a parent is a rather complex one, but it also is one of the very few relationships that last for a lifetime. Our parents are our caregivers and guides, without them, we’ll be completely lost in this world, our existence wouldn’t be justified. Thus, at the end of the day, though we have our fights, there is also a lot of love that exists and that is mainly why the fights come into the picture as well. This love is above all and doesn’t have to be shown or talked about, it’s just there. So, love your parents but also know how to respect them as that is one thing that needs to be shown, unlike love which can just subsist.